CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT!

At EJ’s Club, NO truly means NO. Playing or nudity at our parties is not an obligation to anyone, just an option.  Some guests like to include others in their play. Giving consent (permission) is important in case you want to touch someone else. You cannot know what someone else wants, or even what you yourself want, without talking about consent. 

Therefore, always ask permission before touching someone you do not know well yet. No-one will find this strange, and neither will anyone blame you for saying “no, thank you”, “no, not now” or simply “no”.

Looking at others is allowed of course, but do not disturb others in their play by making comments or talking loudly. Keep proper distance. If someone would like you to participate, they will make that clear to you themselves.

How To Say NO Gracefully

If someone is touching a spot or a part of you that feels uncomfortable, slowly move their hand from the spot or part of you they are touching and place their hand where you feel more comfortable. This is very graceful and no words need to be exchanged to understand what was meant by the move. You can also state that something makes you feel uncomfortable and you would like them to stop.

If you have trouble saying NO to someone directly, at least practice some reasons for leaving someone’s company abruptly such as needing the bathroom, or needing to take your medicine. You must empower yourself with the right words to say that will help get you out of embarrassing situations quickly. Practice with your partner before you go, the practice could be fun at the same time.

If you feel unpleasantly approached, or someone does not respect your boundaries? Please immediately inform us, however difficult this may feel. Your safety and complaints will always be taken seriously.

PARTY TIPS & HINTS!

If you haven’t been to a party before, you may be looking for some Tips & Hints as to what to wear or expect.  Here’s just a couple to think about:

What To Wear Your First Night At Any Swingers Club

It is very important that you wear clothes that are comfortable for both of you. Don’t feel pressured to dress in anything sexy or provocative. A nice dress or skirt and blouse for the ladies and a pair of nice slacks and dressy shirt for the men is all that is needed.

You will benefit greatly if you bring or wear clothes that are a bit sexy or revealing. Many couples will bring a change of clothes with them in a small travel hand bag. Even if you don’t feel like wearing them, you should be prepared with some sexy clothes if the mood changes during the evening. Most couples feel more at ease as the night goes on and seeing the other couples in revealing or sexy outfits can make you feel excited to change outfits and join right in. Be prepared for these possibilities and you will never feel disappointed because you did not plan for it. Many couples have told us that they wish they had brought a sexy outfit to change into after seeing most of the other couples changing into sexy lingerie or similar sexy outfits at our parties.

The He Is Bigger, Harder, and/or Lasts Longer Jealousy

Okay guys it is time you learned that no matter what you have someone will come along who had something that you don’t have. Just because he is bigger does not mean he is better. Just because he is harder that does not mean he is better. And just because he lasts longer than you, that really does not mean he is better. Are you getting the picture yet? Good, because there is no reason for these feelings of jealousy, that is if you know how to use what you have got. Smaller sometimes fits and works better, too hard means a girl cannot deep throat you (that goes for too big as well). And as for lasting longer, did you ever think that your partner has had enough and is finished and she is just waiting for him to cum? Makes you feel better now, doesn’t it?

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